‘Toxic’ cheating turned into consensual non-monogamy
- Nick Cannon opened up about how consensual non-monogamy has improved his life and made him a better person during a YouTube live chat.
- Cannon, who is a co-parent to the children of 3 women, said non-monogamy has helped end toxic habits like lying and cheating.
- Consensual non-monogamy occurs when a person has more than one sexual and/or romantic partner with the knowledge and approval of all parties.
Nick Cannon said the practice of consensual non-monogamy, where a person has more than one sexual or romantic partner with the consent of everyone involved, has helped him quit his toxic dating tendencies in the past.
Cannon discussed the topic with R&B duo DVSN and sex therapist and “Open Monogamy” author Tammy Nelson on July 21 during a YouTube live chat. He said he was “toxic” and “cheating” before learning about alternative relationships outside of monogamy.
But leaning into non-monogamy has made him a more honest and trustworthy partner, Cannon said. Before trying a non-monogamous dynamic, Cannon said his word “meant nothing” to his partners because he would lie about his whereabouts.
‘The Masked Singer’, 41, has co-parented children from three previous relationships and welcomed a baby with model Bre Tiesi earlier this month.
Since exploring non-monogamy and working with a therapist, Cannon has changed his strategy. Now he discusses his relationship intentions and abilities with a potential new partner before he agrees to anything, he said.
Cannon noted that his relationships improve “when you go into those scenarios with the right approach, when there’s no malice, when you’re not trying to be dishonest or lie,” but focus- you on respect for the person.
According to Nelson, if more people knew how to have these conversations without fear or judgment, they would consider non-traditional relationship dynamics like Cannon.
Relationship styles should prioritize integrity over traditional morality, sex therapist says
Nelson said long-held ideas of what monogamy should look like are changing as more people realize they can tailor their relationships to their needs and wants.
During the chat, she explained that open monogamy means “you have a primary or central partner but you have a flexible, free-flowing relationship agreement” that you decide together.
“It’s not your grandmother’s monogamy,” Nelson said. She added that healthy monogamy should be less about society-created morals like marriage or the nuclear family, and more about personal integrity.
It might look like a couple discussing their sexual fantasies and then deciding together how to act on them. For example, you and your partner may agree that it’s okay to flirt or dance with other people when you’re dating alone, but you’ve created a boundary around sex with others.
“The benefit of an open deal is that everyone is on board and everyone knows that’s what we’re all here for,” Nelson said.
Watch the full discussion here: