Kristin Cavallari in ‘Call Her Daddy’: Jay Cutler’s revelations
Heal with hindsight. Kristin Cavallari talks about his difficult relationship with cutler jay — both before and after their 2020 split — like never before.
“It was toxic. Period, end of story,” the Laguna Beach alum, 35, said of his marriage on the Wednesday, Aug. 3 episode of the “Call Her Daddy” podcast. “That’s all I need to say.”
The Uncommon James founder and former NFL player, 39, married in 2013 and called it quits seven years later. They share kids Camden, 9, Jaxon, 8, and Saylor, 6, who remain Cavallari’s biggest priority as she and Cutler navigate their new normal.
When asked what prompted her to end her marriage, the Very Cavallari alum told the host Alex Cooper“I mean, it took me a few years to actually pull the trigger, to be honest… It was more just time. Nothing major happened in the end.
The decision to divorce was “really scary,” but Cavallari thinks it was worth it in the long run. “I really don’t think anything good comes easy. Really, like, with anything in life,” she explained. “But you also don’t want to make an impulsive decision and that’s why it’s important to write it down. I’ve also seen couples who have been through some bullshit and come out on the other side, you know, so I think in any relationship you just have to realize what’s a dealbreaker for you. What’s important to you and what’s not?”
For the jewelry designer, it came down to feeling “really unhappy” in her relationship. “That was the bottom line. I was in an unhealthy relationship and to me it’s not worth it,” Cavallari added. “Also, I didn’t want my kids to think it was normal and I wanted them to see me happy and see me, eventually – not now, but eventually – see me with someone who really respects me and sees me. treat as I need to be treated.”
The Balance in the heels The author went through the early days of her romance with Cutler, who was playing for the Chicago Bears when they met. “I got a call from my publicist in 2009 while I was still filming The hills and he said, ‘Jay Cutler wants to take you to Chicago and take you on a date,’” she recalled. “And I had no idea who he was. I wasn’t interested, quite honestly, so I said no. … A year later, I was visiting my mom, who lives in suburban Chicago, and we were going to a Bears preseason game with my cousin and my mom said, ‘Jay Cutler didn’t tell you- isn’t he invited? And I was like, ‘Oh yeah, I forgot that.’
Cavallari’s cousin was a huge fan of the NFL team, and the reality TV personality treated her family to a meet and greet with the players after the game. “[Jay] walked in and he was much cuter in person,” she joked. “We hung out two nights later and honestly we moved so fast. We got engaged after eight months. … We just had that spark. Because where I was in my life, he was perfect for me.
Prior to their split, the pair were candid about their ups and downs, but Cavallari tried to stay positive in the wake of their split. “The scariest thing I’ve ever done is get divorced,” she said during a July interview on “The School of Greatness” podcast. “But it’s the best thing I’ve ever done and it really started my journey of self-love and finding out who I am now. … It’s brought me to a really peaceful place. I feel feel better than I’ve ever felt in my life I’m the happiest I’ve ever been I’m not afraid of being hurt anymore.
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