How Children Should Inherit Isn’t Always Clear

Every estate planner has conversations with their clients about how children should inherit. While most people assume that children should inherit equally, many clients contemplate treating children differently for various reasons. Here are some situations where an equal inheritance might not be appropriate, and the pros and cons of treating children differently. Scenario #1: A Caretaker Child Child Lives With the ParentMany times, one child primarily helps an elderly parent. This could include helping with medical appointments, coordinating care with various health care providers, being heavily involved in end-of-life care, paying bills and companion care. Oftentimes, this care is provided by a child who lives with or is close to the parent. Subscribe to Kiplinger’s Personal Finance Be a smarter, better informed investor. Save up to 74% Sign up for Kiplinger’s Free E-Newsletters Profit and prosper with the best of Kiplinger’s expert advice on investing, taxes, retirement, personal finance and more – straight to your e-mail. Profit and prosper with the best of Kiplinger’s expert advice – straight to your e-mail. If a child lives with the parent, it may be appropriate to leave the home to that child to the exclusion of the others. This could either be done by simply giving the home to the child or leaving the home to a trust for the child for their lifetime. Similar, a parent may wish to give the caregiver child a larger percentage of the inheritance in recognition of the additional help provided. Scenario #2: A Special Needs ChildIf a parent has been the primary caregiver for a special needs child, then the estate plan should take this into account to ensure that the child will be properly taken care of after the parent’s death. Depending upon available government aid, this can often mean a special needs trust or supplemental needs trust for the child, with more or less than an equal share of the estate being held by the trust. In this scenario, the other children can often be more. understanding. In practice, many times the siblings are involved in the plan for caring for their grown sibling when the parents are no longer able. Scenario #3: A Child With IssuesIf a child has issues, such as mental illness, substance abuse, divorce or creditors , or if the child is bad with money, it may not be appropriate to leave an outright inheritance, or any inheritance, to that child. The same is true for an estranged child. The use of trusts to provide some (protective) support for such a child may be appropriate. Occasionally, disinheriting a child is the choice some families make. Scenario #4: Children With Wealth DisparitiesSometimes a wealthy child may tell a parent to treat them differently and give more to other siblings, or a parent may feel that a very wealthy child does not “need” the inheritance. Wealth can change over a lifetime, so this should be well thought out. What Is Right for You? While these can all be sensible reasons to treat children differently, these are often difficult choices for parents to make. Many parents feel that they are morally obligated to treat their children equally; Otherwise, after death, the children will harbor resentment and/or sibling rivalries will resurface, irreparably damaging those relationships. It is important to be completely open and honest with your estate attorney. Everyone has family issues. While these conversations can be difficult, it’s best to give your estate planner all of the family information so these choices can be considered carefully. (Also, check out the article Should You Treat Your Kids Equally in Your Will? 12 Financial Planners Weigh In, in which financial planners share stories gleaned from their years of experience. Some stories end in disaster, but others offer the reassurance of a clear path to follow.) This article was written by and presents the views of our contributing advisor, not the Kiplinger editorial staff. You can check advisor records with the SEC (opens in a new tab) or with FINRA (opens in a new tab).

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